A young woman woke up one Valentine’s Day and told her husband about a dream she’d just had. “I dreamed that you gave me a necklace for Valentine’s Day.” she said. “ What do you think it means?” “You’ll know tonight,” he said. That evening, the husband came home with a small package and gave it to his wife. Delighted, the woman opened it. Inside was a book entitled “The Meaning of Dreams.”
If you’ve ever had a disappointing Valentine’s Day, try making sure it doesn’t happen again by taking to heart these three creative and inexpensive ideas:
• Rent a movie
Not just any movie, rent the first – or one of the first – movies you ever saw as a couple. Another romantic idea is to download a few episodes of a TV show you used to watch together when you were falling in love. Dim the lights, hold hands, and think about what life was like before the only movies you watched had a G rating and a talking animal.
• Write a love note
Bill Shapiro, editor of Other People’s Love Letters: 150 Letters You Were Never Meant to See, says a great love letter is personal, and includes something that refers to your secret history together. For example, if you held hands for the first time at a movie, print a picture of the movie poster and write your note on it. If you met on a bus, scribble “I love you” on a bus schedule. The point is to create another memory that’s closely tied to your lives together. What if you’re not a good writer? Shapiro says, “People don’t believe this, but it doesn’t matter how well you write. It’s the fact that you committed it to paper.”
• Go on a second first-date
This idea is so simple that it might not cross many people’s minds. Return to the site of your first date, or to the spot where you first met, or got engaged. If that’s not possible, select a site where you experienced another kind of “first” that has special memories for both of you. Once there, talk about what your lives were like back then. Where were you working? Who was your boss? What was your favorite song? What movies were popular? How did you spend your time as a couple? How have your lives changed?
While reminiscing about your life before children, also spend a bit of time talking about how great it is to be a mom and dad. Tell the kids, too. That way, everyone in the family can have special Valentine’s Day memories.